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I'm a victim of child to parent violence

Child to parent violence, or adolescent to parent violence (APVA), is any behaviour used by a child or young person to control, dominate, or coerce you. It's threatening and intimidating, and can put the rest of your family at risk.

While it's normal for some adolescents to demonstrate healthy anger, conflict, or frustration as they transition between childhood and adulthood, anger should not be confused with violence. Violence is about a range of behaviours including non-physical acts aimed at achieving ongoing control over another person by instilling fear.

APVA is likely to involve a pattern of behaviour, which may include physical violence, damage to property, emotional abuse, or financial / economic abuse.

It can be difficult to admit that your child is abusive. You may feel ashamed, disappointed, and humiliated, and blame yourself for the situation. If you're a victim of APVA, help is available for both you and the child who is perpetrating the abuse.

If you're in immediate danger, or in an emergency, contact the police on 999.

In a non-emergency situation, you can get support via domestic abuse services like My Sisters Place or Harbour Support Service, and/or by contacting either your school, health professional, or GP, who should help you to access support via the council's Children's Services.

More information can be found in the government's information guide on adolescent to parent violence and abuse (APVA).